Pros: a wonderful, nuanced discussion on how the patriarchy really screws with both women and men when it comes to love and relationships; a sadly accurate analysis of girl-on-girl hate; an interesting history of Hooks and her experiences in the feminist movement. The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products. Maybe what I’m asking would make it “too academic” or “boring” for the average reader, and it’s true that I usually know what she’s getting at, but she sacrifices accuracy and clarity for concise and sometimes glib sentences or paragraphs. In line with my current fascination with the topics of companionship and love, I am finding a lot of understanding, warmth and good old fashioned lived wisdom in critical thinking based feminist texts. I appreciate how she may not be able to speak on that, but an acknowledgement of her limitations would have been prudent, I think.

Like beautiful snakes, they were going to reach their prime, boldly shed their skin, and acquire another -- this one more powerful and beautiful than all the rest.Throughout Communion and especially in the chapter on romantic friendships, hooks highlights her ability to question the status quo about relationships and to think outside of the box to procure long and lasting love. She cites the work of John Bradshaw, Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth , which encourages both men and women to reflect extensively (with the best intentions), to what extent our parents confused love with abuse — linking abuse to the “ cultural acceptance of patriarchal domination as a founding narrative. When the world started changing for women because of feminist movement and a lot became more equal than it ever had been, for a time it was only women who had been allowed a taste of power -- class privilege or education or extra-special-hard-to-ignore-gifts-who most "got it" and "got with it.

I found myself reflecting on the ways in which I’ve watched myself battle through relationships based on or steeped in notions and ideals that I inherently rejected (based on familial history), have outrightly rejected (once presented to me) or those that I have struggled to squeeze myself into when I was lost in conflicting emotional states (my own, the ones that were thrust upon me or that I had courted into my life). Perhaps she is right about the man in this particular case purposefully withholding, but I would argue that women are equally capable of purposefully withholding and men have just as much right to say no, even over extended periods of time. elinize ağır, teorik, terimler içeren, anlamaya çalışırken yorulacağınız bir kitap almıyorsunuz bence. The courage to choose adventure is the ingredient that exists in women's lives today that was there for most women before the contemporary feminist movement. I definitely want to visit it again when I’m older, as the target audience seems to be older women/mothers (lots of reflections on the beauty of aging and menopause).

Hooks draws interesting links to the 21st century struggle for love that raises women up instead of oppresses, but at times the anecdotes from the feminist movement of the 70s did not offer much but reminiscence for a time that I didn't live through.

This has been my experience the last few years, as I've learned to have nonsexual friendships with extraordinary men that are emotionally intimate, safe, and inspiring. Primarily through a postmodern female perspective, she addressed race, class, and gender in education, art, history, sexuality, mass media and feminism. Nothing was more frightening to women who wanted to be with men than a feminist movement exposing the depths of male contempt and disregard for the female sex. I get her point (I think), but again—it seems sloppy in a published work by someone who is a seasoned academic and an intellectual to make such claims without providing just a few more details of what she actually means.

By self-love, Hooks references the act of women accepting their body and soul as is, without trying to change things.